Picking up where I left off...
So... let's see. His cousin (my friend) called me to ask what I thought of him. I was slightly caught off guard and really didn't know how to answer that question. I told her he's a definite cutie pie & told her a few of the things he said... and pretty much left it at that. I wasn't exactly sure whether I was completely taking him seriously or not at that point. So... long story short... after I posted that post & watched The Hills, my girl called me over to her crib for a lil' bit, as they were flying back to DC that next day. I had to pick up some business stuff from them, as I'm joining into another home-based business w/ them. Her hubby let me know that Mr. 22 (new name from this point on will be Mr. JBHH, ie. Mr. JailBaitHipHop). No, he's not a criminal... I just like that name from How Stella Got Her Groove Back. So... whatever.
I throw on some oversized sweats (my favorite thing to relax in) & go. I arrive and he's already there. I shoot the shimmy w/ my girl's hubby about the business and am slightly listening to his convo w/ my girl in the midst of my own conversation. Yeah... I'm good at multi-listening when I need to be. I hear him inquiring to my girl as to what he should do in regards to me. Meaning go for the gusto or not. I could have sworn my girl said to him, "I think you should keep it moving." lol! Now I wasn't sure if it's because she knows the kind of guys I usually date or because she didn't want him to get his feelings hurt. Or maybe if it was just too close to home. But... he replied w/ some words (I couldn't catch his response though. And truthfully, that keep it moving comment might not have even been in regards to me. I was just assuming). But I later hear him saying something & she says, "do what you do." Long story short... they're getting ready for bed, so he walks me out. We talk for about 30 minutes. He's comin' at me from every direction. Tells me he's had a crush on me since he met me & he wants to know what I think about him... the situation... us... etc. I'm like... wasn't the advice you were given in the house to keep it moving? He said... But is that what YOU want me to do? *silence* I can't even say, yes. Cause even I wasn't sure if I wanted him to keep it moving. I just replied... "Look, I can't say that that's what I want... but I really don't know how to answer that question, as this situation is just really awkward." He said he understood. He knows it's awkward. But that he doesn't want to miss out on going after his longtime crush & always wonder what might have/would have/could have been... when he could just take a chance & let the cards fall where they may. No lie... I was giddy inside for some reason. But at that point... I was just still unsure of how to handle this situation. We parted w/ a hug & text'd a bit after that. At this point... I'm just still a bit in limbo as to what just happened. If I thought he was gonna ease up & get over it... it was NOT about to happen. lol!
I'll admit... I'm attracted to him. Yes, I am. And I'm definitely attracted to a man that knows what he wants & isn't afraid to go after it. But, 22? Not sure if I can go there. But... for those of you on the protected, check the spot to see a pic of him. =o)
However... --->insert 22 yr old moment <--- here. We're talking... discussing some casual convo *ish on Friday night. I ask him can he cook. He says, "Most definitely. I love to cook." Hmmm... so I say, so you can cook me something sometime then? He says, "Of course. What would you like me to cook?" I ask if he cooks salmon? He lets me know he's allergic to fish *sigh* So... long story short... he says, "I'll put it like this... I'll cook for you as long as you buy the groceries." *sigh* (This is starting to resemble the $2 bill story from a few years ago where the dude said if he pays for dinner the chick should pay the tip. Remember that bull*ish?) So... I say, "Why? Because you're 22?" He says, "Nah. I'm on some 50/50 tip. If you were cooking me dinner, I'd buy the groceries." I said, "If I was cooking you dinner, I wouldn't LET you buy the groceries. That's included in me cooking dinner!" *smh* Maybe I'm just spoiled or something. Cause never in my life had I had a dude tell me he'd cook me dinner if I bought the groceries. So... you know I'm thinking to myself... "girl, is this really a road you want to go down?" I mean... when Square Bear & Alpha are ones to fly a chick out of state to see them AND wine & dine me while I'm there... Maybe I'm just spoiled? No? Or then again... perhaps it's due to the fact that they are far from 22. Grrr...
I'll keep you posted on what happens. I talked to my girl (his cousin) via email today & she was pretty much playing up his attributes. She said she doesn't remember telling him to keep it moving. She said she told him to do him. So... apparently, she's not opposed to it. Wow.
Anyhoo... I've got a bunch of randoms to write but... I'm lacking the energy. Maybe Tuesday. =o)
5 comments:
Casually date him... see where it goes... maybe he has tons of energy, and can be useful in a ceratin way ;-) YES that way lolololol
Well you know me, not the fan of random dating with no purpose, so I guess you need to ask yourself what you want out of this? If it's a good time, then go for it? But if what he's showing you if already raising some of your no-no flags, you may want to follow your instincts! Better now than later, when you might find yourself dealing with an overly attached P.Y.T.!
I say there is nothing wrong with becoming friends with him. Follow your intuition. If you aren't fully into it then just let him know upfront. therefore you aren't leading him on if you aren't intending to develop a romantic relationship with him. He may not be on the same mature level or even close...hell time will reveal a person (i.e my situation)
Take it one day at a time and enjoy yourself. =)
I'm still team Mr. Alpha.
yo, what's up with this new generation of men wanting everything 50/50? umm, it can be 50/50 when i want it to be.. HA! naw, forreals tho.. if you gon' cook dinner for someone, you need to buy your own damn groceries.. the hell is this BS about the person you cookin' for buying the food for you to cook? what kinda half-ass shit is that?
anyway, DAMN.. i can't get over 22! that is soooo young! he was born in 1986! '86!!! sigh.. i dunno.. personally, i just feel a 22-year-old guy is mentally on a completely different level.. usually they either still in school, or fresh outta school.. well, lemme check out his pic before i say anything more. haha.
@ Sassy... lol @ "useful in a certain way" Lil' negro might turn me out or something. Sheesh!
@ Carla... spoken like a trooper. However... not sure in what regard to hold ol' boy. But that "I'll cook you dinner if..." madness just had me shaking my head. *sigh* We'll see what happens...
@ Urbane... I'm still Team Alpha, too! Good advice, tho. I'm definitely going to enjoy myself.
@ Foxxy... lmao @ your comment on the pic! Ha! Ha! I'll have to comment back over there. =o) And THANK YOU on that half-assed shit on cooking dinner. We are ---> HERE <---! But yeah... 86. *sigh* We'll see how this progresses; or if it does at all. lol.
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